Sexy fun night: next day blues (Subdrop)

When and if you include a friend,..

So you’ve had a fun night with a new kink friend (or friends) and the hours that follow result in feelings of depression. Two other names may be attached to this actual condition; situational dysthymia and /or postcoital dysphoria (PCD).

Sadly, this form of dysphoria is common. It occurs with nearly half the population, both male and female, at least occasionally throughout our lives.  While that might seem like bad news, there are many things you can do to adjust the emotion. 

First of all, recognize that dysphoria (subdrop) is real and manageable and is widely recognized in our community.  The sooner you recognize this condition the faster you can respond to your individual needs. Talk it out, hug, cuddle,.. give yourself a break and breath through it. And don’t forget to drink plenty of water.

Secondly, understand that while dysphoria might be directly related to the fun you just had, the actual cause may be connected to your past. Bad relationships, past trauma, or in some instances it could be connected to on going difficulties: not other wise recognized. You may need to seek out a therapist, I’m just stating the obvious. 

Third, understand that varied forms of short term depression (as in a chemical come down) are just a normal part of getting high on life. Intense highs need to equalize. Neurology holds many complexities that may not be easily addressed in simple terms but, what goes up must come down. 

And finally, and by finally I mean I’m going to list three more things,.. One, choose your partners to the best of your ability. And ask for cuddles after. You’re not weak in asking, you’re acting as a responsible adult. Two, talk honestly and openly. It’s okay to be honest with yourself and others. If it isn’t, well, perhaps your hanging in the wrong spot at this moment. Third, seriously, get help if you need help. We are a community, and a community with literally hundreds of people whom are pretty well equipped with experience and ‘know how’,… ask, read, engage in community boards, and learn. 

Anyway, I’m concerned for people’s hearts and souls,.. I recently had another run-in with beautiful girl who dropped pretty hard. My fault for not taking too her about aftercare when I know this stuff. To that girl, please forgive me, things are wonderful, thank you (Rawr).

Dom D.J.I. CHT
Nance K.E.K CMA